Being a Titus 2 Woman - Purity

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Today we are talking about the 4th virtue included in the Being a Titus 2 Woman series. This series is based off of the book Feminine Appeal, which shares 7 virtues of a Godly wife and mother from Titus 2:3-5:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Now we have to remember that the goal of demonstrating these virtues in our lives is so "that the word of God may not be reviled." Also, we need to remember that we are sinners and we are going to fail at living out these virtues day in and day out. We need the grace of God and the Holy Spirit working in us and through us everyday!

Today we are talking about Purity. Let's start right out with an opening quote from Carolyn (pg. 81),

If you watch TV, go to the movies, or read magazines today, you can get the idea that the only people having sex (or "good sex") are the ones who aren't married. If marital sex is even portrayed in popular media, it seems bland and routine. Our culture has pushed marital sex into the backroom and instead celebrates immoral sex.

That's why younger women today require the training of older, godly women to acquire a biblical perspective on sex.

This is an area in our culture that is infiltrating our Christian homes and hurting marriages everywhere! We, as christian women, need to remember that we not to conform to this world (Romans 12:2, Colossians 2:8)! We should be seeing marital sex as the great honor and pleasure that it is, because "...God intends for us to experience tremendous joy and satisfaction when we express our sexuality within the confines of marriage" (pg. 82).

In this chapter, Carolyn takes us through a brief tour of the Bible to see what God has to say about sex:

• It was God's idea, it was not created by man (Genesis 2:21-25).
• It is fashioned for marriage (1 Corinthians 7:1-9).
• It is intended for pleasure (Song of Solomon 5:4).
• It is designed for intimacy (Genesis 4:1, emphasis on knew).
• It is created for procreation (Genesis 1:27-28).
  

"God's grand design is that a husband and wife unabashedly enjoy sexual union within marriage, for His glory" (pg. 85). What a wonderful design!

Now, some of you reading this have sinned in the past in the realm of purity. I have. When I was first married, I didn't think that I could have this wonderfully designed union in the bedroom, because of my past sin. However, that is not God's design! With His help, we can have honorable, pleasurable sex with our husbands, the way that He designed it!

We are forgiven, and we need to live like we are! We do not need to be hindered or held back, we have freedom in Christ (Galatians 5:1)! We need to let go of the hold that sin has on us and no longer be slaves to our sin but instead embrace the life we have in Christ.

Or maybe, you were raised to think that sex is sinful, you only heard bad things about it. There is hope for you too! Christ has designed this wonderful union for us in marriage. He created sex. He created you to give your husband pleasure in a godly way! We can see God's design for sex so clearly in the Song of Solomon, please take the time to read this thoroughly and let go of what is holding you back and find joy in the sexual union you have with your husband!

Please remember that it is only through Jesus that we can find freedom from our sins. We cannot do this alone! "God does not "prevent" our conflict with sin. Rather He directs us to draw upon His inexhaustible supply of grace so that we can resist sexual temptation and grow in purity" (pg. 88).

In closing I want to share another quote from Carolyn (pg. 84),

Marital sex is the pinnacle of human bonding. It is the highest form of the communication of love - a language that expresses love without words. It calls forth the deepest, most powerful emotions. It creates intimacy within marriage like nothing else.

For more resource, visit Jess from Making Home who did a great 5 part series titled Being "Sexy" for Your Husband?, she has also wrote many other times on the subject of Sexuality and the Bible.

Do you think your husband would describe you as consistently available and eager for lovemaking? Why or why not? If not, what excuses are you tempted to give? What happens when you are eager and available?

You can view all the posts in the series by visiting the Series Index.

For more information about the book, Feminine Appeal, visit Crossway, our series Partner.

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