It is true! I can be so nice and so loving and then in an instant, I turn into a mean creature who lacks self-control.As my husband and I are in the process of adopting, we are trying to self-assess ourselves, find our strengths, and find our weaknesses... In doing so, I am so much more aware of my temper and lack of self-control.
I don't know why I hadn't realized it before, but I definitely got my father's temper! And I am not proud of it, at all! I need to change! I do not want to be a screaming parent who can't control themselves, and in return teach that to my children.
I also want to stop the way I am making my husband feel. I know that every time I lose my temper to him, I am hurting him, and showing complete disrespect. That is something that hurts me to the core. I do not want to tear Michael down, I want to build him up!
So, in doing this heart check, I am even more aware of the need I have for Christ! I cannot change my ways without Him, I need His involvement!!! He is the only one who can help me learn more self-control.
Want to help me out? Share any tips or books that will help me develop my self-control. And, if you have been through this, please share with me!
2 comments:
I think there's a parenting book by Julie Barnhill called "Mom's Gonna Blow" about controlling your temper as a mom. I have it, but I don't think I've read it yet. I got it a couple of years ago when I was struggling with some anger. I found that most of mine stemmed from discontent, so that's where I focused my attention. I will be praying for you in this.
I just ran across your blog from At The Well. This is an issue I struggle with too, especially as we try to prepair for a family. Some of the best advice I have found in the link below.
http://www.raisinggodlytomatoes.com/ch15.asp
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